Aug 23, 2008

The restaurant restroom exchange

I've read a few stories (fictional or otherwise) of guys discreetly meeting each other after eyeing each other across a restaurant by both going to the establishment's restroom. Well, I finally got to experience the same thing recently while I was with a bunch of straight friends who don't know my "other side" in a posh restaurant in Makati. Sitting at a nearby table was this great-looking guy with a great smile and a nice stubbled jaw drinking beer with some of his friends. We both caught each others eyes and eventually exchanged some long meaningful stares.

I guess it's just instinct for discreet guys to gravitate to the restroom when searching for opportunities. And in a restaurant, the pretext of freshening up or answering to the call of nature provides a perfect cover as to why you'd have to temporarily leave the table. In my recent encounter, I simply mumbled an excuse, got up and went to the comfort room (as we Pinoys like to call the restroom) and proceeded to relieve my bladder. I lingered there for a while and as expected, the guy I did the eye equivalent of a footsie with entered the restroom as well. He pretended to take a leak and afterwards stood beside me at the sink counter. We smiled at each other and he introduced himself and I likewise. No, nothing happened (though I would've loved to ravage his lips with kisses). The problem is, that restroom was really not a place to do anything naughty so we just exchanged cellphone numbers and parted ways. Yeah, I know it's a bit anti-climactic.

If there's any lesson to be learned from this, it's that discreet PLU guys can be quite resourceful people. The need to be circumspect in meeting other guys provide us with some unique social skills that straight people would never think of.

Anyway, I'd love to hear if you have any similar stories as well. I'm sure some of you have more steamier encounters to share. Hehehe. :-)


odin hood wrote on August 24, 2008 at 1:10 AM:

that's kinda how i met my first bf, now an ex hehe

Mugen wrote on August 24, 2008 at 7:17 PM:

I have this habit of leaning my legs against someone i like while inside the public transpo.

Vince wrote on August 26, 2008 at 12:40 AM:

Odin, that's good to hear! It just reinforces my opinion that you can find love almost anywhere. :-)

Mugen, so ever gotten lucky?

joaqui_miguel wrote on August 26, 2008 at 2:21 AM:

Interesting. :) Maybe I can try this. Although, most of the time, I will be too shy to talk to him or even smile. I know. I need a seminar on this. lol

Vince wrote on August 27, 2008 at 12:43 AM:

Joaqui, you just need to be more confident! :-)

joaqui_miguel wrote on August 27, 2008 at 9:51 AM:

These are all still relatively new to me that's why I am still kinda timid about it. :)

ArchieMD wrote on August 28, 2008 at 11:21 AM:

I don't know why I suddenly feel my facial nerves paralyzed whenever a guy smiles at me, hence I cannot smile back.

or I look away when someone is staring at me...

Heck, I even get palpitations whenever I see my crush in the gym.

Totally immature.

Vince wrote on September 1, 2008 at 2:48 AM:

Joaqui, ah I see. I guess there's no need to rush. You'll gain experience in time. Good luck!

Archie, yikes! Iyan ang dakilang torpe! I hope you get over it; sayang din ang mga oportunidad!

beyondallrepair wrote on September 7, 2008 at 3:44 PM:

This always happens to me. A guy looks and we exchange glances but I've never taken it to the let's exchange numbers or saliva in the washroom. Haha! I dunno, it's not that I'm not confident or anything. Maybe I'm just scared of rejection. :P

Vince wrote on September 10, 2008 at 1:11 AM:

beyondallrepair, hey, thanks for visiting! There's no rush. You just take your time working up the motivation to take it to the next level. :-)

mavey wrote on September 14, 2008 at 8:12 AM:

so ... what happened then? you got the number ... no follow up after 2 weeks?

Vince wrote on September 15, 2008 at 12:30 AM:

Mave, unfortunately, this was a dead end. :-P Oh well, that's how life goes.