The leaving-your-card trick

So, you’ve exchanged the look a few times with this guy in the gym and you both know that you are both interested in each other. But how do you get to know each other discreetly, mindful that other people might be watching or that either of you may have companions that you don’t want to learn of your flirting ways?

One way I know of and one that I’ve personally experienced is the leaving-your-card trick. (Yes, I made that term up.) Basically, it entails one guy leaving a calling card (or even a number written on a small piece of paper) somewhere discreet but in full view of the other man. The other guy then gets the card a short time later. It’s perfectly discreet: wordless and inconspicuous!

One guy I met at the gym before used this trick. We've been exchanging glances but neither of us had to courage to approach the other and have small talk. So I was sitting on a couch when he went to the nearby drinking station. I then saw him leave his calling card on the side and when he left, I went to the station pretending to be thirsty myself. I grabbed the card and several minutes later, we were texting each other.

I tried doing this trick myself before but it didn’t work out. The small piece of paper where I wrote my number was intercepted by the janitor who promptly threw it in the wastebasket. Sigh.